We’re often reminded how stressful it can be to plan a wedding. With the numerous things to organise, it’s understandable that some of us handle it better than others. But there are so many reasons to see wedding planning as a time of joy, rather than a time of stress.
Of course it’s normal to have a few moments to feel slightly overwhelmed; the lists, the phone calls, the never-ending advice. The key is to keep your mind on the bigger picture and not sweat the small stuff.
Remember, there is nothing that can’t be fixed.
There are very few things that could stop your wedding from being anything short of perfect.
When stress gets in the way, we can lose sight of this. If this happens, it’s time to take a step back and remember the happiness the wedding planning process can be.
Here are 5 ways to make sure your wedding planning is a time of joy, not stress.
Focus on what’s really important
You might have heard stories of couples who have thrown in the towel on wedding planning and run away to elope instead. Although it might seem tempting to do the same, hang in there!
Your relationship is the main focus here. You have reached a point in your journey with each other that it’s finally time to tie the knot. The opportunity to make someone your husband or wife is an extremely special thing.
If it all becomes too much, remind yourself why you’re doing this. Remind yourself of the wonderful reward that is your wedding day! A whole day with your closest family and friends to solidify the relationship between you and your bride or groom-to-be.
Give yourself plenty of time
Unless you’re a super-planner, it’s best to give yourself plenty of time to organise your wedding. Not only is this far more feasible financially, it’s much easier on your stress levels to space things out.
The typical Kiwi engagement period is around 15 months. Giving yourself plenty of planning time is especially important because it allows you to have a break from wedding planning during that time. Going all guns blazing throughout the whole process means you’ll have nothing else on the brain, making it harder to switch off and relax. Make sure you spread your planning out to ensure enough time to put to give yourself a breather when you need it.
Do what you want, not what everyone else wants
This is a tough one because you’re likely to have a lot of people in your ear.
Advice is one thing, but enforcing an opinion is quite another.
You need to stick to your guns in the politest way possible. People generally have good intentions so don’t take it personally. Just make sure you plan the wedding of your dreams, not the dreams of someone else.
Start your wedding planning with a clear vision of how you want things to go.
The food, the attire, the décor should all be about you two and what you want. If you have an idea of what you want, you will stick to your own path throughout the wedding planning process. It will also ensure that you stay happy with the decisions you’ve made.
Listen and be there for each other during wedding planning
This is a team effort. You need to do this together.
Don’t leave it up to the other person to plan the entire day, no matter how happy they seem to be doing it. It can be a huge load for one person to take on. If you see your fiancé struggling through the task list, offer to take over some of the tasks.
The same applies for people who feel they need to be in control of every step in the planning process.
It is far healthier to offload some (or half!) of the planning to your fiancé. Yes, they are perfectly capable of doing it properly.
If you’re in this together, it’ll be the perfect day for both of you.
Book an experienced wedding venue
A great wedding venue is one that has vast experience in wedding planning. It is invaluable to have supportive wedding staff on your side to offer the best help and advice along the way.
Here at Markovina Vineyard Estate we are not only experienced, we are passionate about all things weddings.
There is something so magical about watching couples tie the knot and each wedding is so unique.
We understand that wedding planning can be full on which is why we are there for our couples whenever they need a hand. Even if it’s just a phone call to go over things for the umpteenth time, we are always happy to hear from our couples.
Having our team of experts on board gives you constant reassurance that things are on track. Our testimonials show that we don’t just offer the venue, we offer constant support throughout your wedding planning journey.
The staff are so lovely and incredibly helpful, the venue itself is absolutely stunning and the food is incredible. Many of our guests said it was one of the best weddings they had ever been to. It truly was everything I had dreamed of and more. – Jessica & James Penman
We want to make the process a time of joy for you.
Call us today and book a time to meet with us. From that point on, you’ll feel ready to tackle your wedding planning head on.